Are you in crisis? Healing TREE is not a crisis center but there are 24/7 free and confidential crisis hotlines that can help. Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
The Betrayal Bond
Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D.
Exploitive relationships can create trauma bonds–chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them. Divorce, employee relations, litigation of any type, incest and child abuse, family and marital systems, domestic violence, hostage negotiations, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. All these relationships share one thing: they are situations of incredible intensity or importance where there is an exploitation of trust or power. In The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships. This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work. Buy Now
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Lundy Bancroft, Ph.D.
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued in a relationship, and to find ways to get free of abuse.
He says he loves you. So…why does he do that?
You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:
• The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely
“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health Buy Now
- 20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You, Shahida Arabi
- Abuse Victims Are Not Codependent, They’re Trauma-Bonded, Huffington Post by Shahida Arabi
- Trauma Bonds (And Other Trauma Reactions), Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D., CAS
- What Is Domestic Violence?, The National Domestic Violence Hotline
Approved Care Network
Healing TREE provides a free, nationwide directory of trauma-focused mental health providers. We work to connect individuals with providers who are not only brain-body based trauma experts but who also fit their unique needs, like being a therapist of color, a queer therapist or faith based, who take their insurance or offer sliding scale. We include providers trained in various, leading brain-body based modalities (e.g. EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Brainspotting) who have been personally vetted with phone interviews by our team and whose certificates in these modalities are on file. We also include treatment facilities, creative arts therapists and more.
Why Our Approved Care Network
Due to the lack of integration between the trauma, mental health and medical fields, mental health and medical professionals often have not had the extensive trauma training necessary to approach their clients’ conditions in a way that promotes healing rather than simply managing symptoms. When helping professionals understand interpersonal trauma’s impact on the brain and the science behind the symptoms, effective treatment can take place, rather than blaming and re-traumatizing the victim.
Trauma-focused treatment modalities that engage the survival part of the brain – where the “fight-flight-freeze” response takes place – allow for the processing of trauma as opposed to the more common “talk therapy” which engages only the logical, cognitive part of the brain and often results in obtaining coping strategies rather than real healing. While we believe there is certainly a place for cognitive work, we align with the belief many experts in the trauma field subscribe to which is that brain-body based work is necessary for processing trauma. Healing TREE has, to the best of our ability, vetted the practices of the providers in our network and made sure that they understand, are capable of, and trained in treating trauma. We require providers in our network to provide their training certificates in leading brain-body based treatment modalities to help ensure that they are on what we believe to be the cutting edge of trauma treatment. The clinicians on our Advisory Board have helped us determine the vetting process. To learn more about the modalities we promote and why, please visit our Resources page. Our Approved Care Network is made up of Individual Mental Health Professionals (Psychologists, Licensed Clinical Social Workers, Licensed Mental Health Counselors, etc.) Supplemental Care Providers (Trauma-Sensitive Yoga Instructors, Art Therapists, Equine-Assisted Therapists, etc.) and Treatment Facilities. Click on your state to see the approved providers/ facilities in your area.
If your state isn’t green, or if you don’t see a provider who meets your specific needs, please see the “Don’t see a provider who meets your needs here?” section below so we can get to work finding you a good fit.
Please mention that you were referred by Healing TREE when / if you reach out to anyone in our Approved Care Network. Special rates and scheduling arrangements may be possible with some of our providers.
The providers alone, and not Healing TREE, are responsible for the care that they provide. Healing TREE has, to the best of our ability, vetted their practices and made sure that they understand, are capable of, and trained in treating trauma. Please note: We do not check licenses / certificates for providers within treatment facilities. Please contact the facility directly for updated licensure. Currently, our network of approved care and supplemental care providers is only in the USA. If you have any questions or concerns about any of these providers, please don’t hesitate to contact us.
Don’t see a provider who meets your needs here?
Email [email protected] and our Approved Care Network team will get to work finding a provider who matches your needs and our criteria in your area.
Interested in becoming a part of our network? Please fill out the appropriate form below.
Help for Perpetrators of Abuse
Help for Partners who are Abusive: Guide for Men Who Are Serious About Changing – Part 1